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Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Want to Know Something??

When Rick came home from work one day, he asked the kids what they had learned in school. The response?

"Nothing. We didn't really do anything." Which was met with agreement from all the kids.

In all honesty, I wanted to hide under the table, because we had done pretty close to nothing academically recordable that day. That made me feel about 2 inches tall and like I was about the worst mother, parent, teacher, etc... around.

There are days where we get so much 'learning stuff' done {and I am amazed on those days}. Other days can seem to drag by and it can be like pulling teeth to do ANYTHING. Sometimes it depends on the preparation I've put into our day...other times ~ well, who knows what exactly happens.

Yesterday I let our kids sit and play with their Leapsters. For a VERY long time. At first I felt horribly guilty for it, but then something triggered in me and I realized something about myself.

I'm the one putting undue pressure on myself. Pressure to perform a certain way. Pressure to get all the little things checked off MY list ~ we will learn 'this', 'this', and 'this'...which can suck all the joy and fun out of learning for both me and the kids. Pressure to PROVE that we did so much on each day, put 'x' amount of time in, and made a set amount of progress. Making it fit into my nice little mental boxes {and planner boxes} and making sure that our school year is following along with the plans that I made over 5 months ago.

Today I sat down and just looked at all that we've accomplished over the last few months and realized ~ it's OK!! I need to relax, back off and quit worrying about some things...and just have FUN with our kids. That is truly when our learning takes off. Schedules and such do have their place at times, but one of the reasons we are homeschooling is so that we can spend time together and make learning a fun experience for everyone.

Sometimes I just need to remind myself of that!




  • Exactly! Now don't you feel better :)

    Hugs and love!

    By Blogger Mom to 9 Blessings!, At February 2, 2010 at 6:10 AM  

  • If there is one thing that God constantly reminds me of, it is this: whenever you feel down, unworthy,etc He will show you that it is only YOU that's feeling that way, in reality it is totally the opposite! You are an excellent mommy, teacher, parent! God is guiding you on this journey and as you said, it should always be fun for all of you. Thank you for sharing, I also struggled with this same topic just yesterday, but in my quiet time I realized that it was only me that is putting all this pressure on myself.

    God Bless you on your wonderful journey with your beautiful children!

    By Blogger Trudie, At February 2, 2010 at 6:43 AM  

  • I am such a scheduler and struggle with what we should be getting done and it is so nice when I realize whatever we are doing is enough and to enjoy the moment!! Sadly that doesn't happen often but I am working on it! Thanks for the great post/reminder!

    By Blogger Julie, At February 2, 2010 at 6:56 AM  

  • Wonderful timing! Thanks! I decided early this morning that today would be a teacher in-service day. As a matter of fact, the whole week may be!

    By Blogger Valerie, At February 2, 2010 at 7:00 AM  

  • For several weeks now we've been on a more open schedule. It feels so much better. It's amazing how much learning is taking place that isn't planned.

    By Blogger Jenny, At February 2, 2010 at 8:16 AM  

  • I do know that feeling when the kids "tell on mommy" as soon as he comes in the door..."daddy guess what we didn't get dressed all day and we didn't do school today"...That feeling does make me feel like the worse parent/teacher ever, but it is nice to know that I'm not the only mama that has those days...The day's where the kids are playing so great together you hate to break it up for school, or I just want to finish a sewing project that I started on Sunday. My good friend will make me feel better by saying that if they we're in a public school it would just be like a snow day or a teacher meeting day right??? Well
    thanks for the post I do feel better about "those" day that we mom's/teacher's sometimes take especially since even super mom (you)takes them too:-)

    By Blogger fairyluver, At February 2, 2010 at 8:35 AM  

  • Thanks for granting me permission to RELAX! Perfectionism is a particular issue that I struggle with, though the Lord has brought me miles in this area. The more I relax and let the Lord lead our day, the more I give permission for my children to do the same. Hopefully this will keep them from struggling with perfectionism as I have for some many years.

    Perfectly timed post. Thanks!

    Be blessed.
    Heather Mac

    By Blogger Mark & Heather Mac, At February 2, 2010 at 10:31 AM  

  • Thank you so much for sharing this. Some days are such a fight to get anyone to do anything and I feel like if we don't do SOMETHING, I have failed. I think I'm so worried about dd doing just what everyone else is doing in ps that I feel like I need to push her. I need to relax more and appreciate the time we have, I know it will go far to quickly.

    By Blogger Amy, At February 2, 2010 at 10:40 AM  

  • It's so easy for us to get caught up in the 'have-to-do's' and end up so stretched that we, and our kids, are ready to snap. A homeschool veteran mom told me when I was in my first year of homeschooling "It's YOUR school. Plan it how you like. You don't have to fit into anyone elses box." I really took that to heart and I remind myself of that when I have a day that none of us really feels like doing anything. We put away the books and pull out the games, like Blurt!, chess, Boggle, cribbage, etc. and just have a low key learning day. And that's really okay! :)

    By Anonymous Dawn, At February 2, 2010 at 11:15 AM  

  • Great post! We all need to remind ourselves that the time we spend with our children, and even the times when our planners and schedules go by the way side, teaching never stops!

    By Blogger Debbie, At February 2, 2010 at 4:11 PM  

  • It is a joy knowing that there of other moms who feel the same way. We spent the majority of our week (last week) taking it easy and spending some quality family time together. Sometimes taking a break can provide a fresh prespective for us. We know life's lessons teach us many things so everyday in some small way we are teaching our children.

    By Blogger SANDRA, At February 2, 2010 at 5:44 PM  

  • Thank you so much for this reminder. I'm new to homeschooling and feeling like I can't keep up the pace I've set for us. I've been feeling the need to just take a day off and today my 2yo is sick so we didn't do school here and it felt nice to be more relaxed. It's so easy to feel like I have to do everything I've planned or I will have failed.

    By Anonymous Sarah N., At February 2, 2010 at 8:00 PM  

  • I came to your blog from Praying for Parker. Thanks so much for all the great ideas as well as the activities! :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, At February 2, 2010 at 9:29 PM  

  • Thank you so much for being transparent with us! We moms being "real" with each other is the only way we can encourage one another. I know I lost my supermom cape in the dryer a long time ago! :) Such a great post.

    By Blogger Angela, At February 2, 2010 at 11:29 PM  

  • Thank you for the post! I have been having one of those "pulling teeth" mornings! Your post was just what I needed for some perspective..thanks again!

    By Blogger Earthgrlie, At February 3, 2010 at 12:06 PM  

  • Oh, such amazing timing. I was just trying to pull myself out of a guilt hole.

    This whole past week has been draining emotionally, after losing my grandmother and arranging for her memorial service. We've had a lot of family in town, as well, which has kept us even busier than usual. My mother got very sick. Then co-op classes started today.

    I began to feel like I was accomplishing very little with them during the day. Well, that's because I haven't been accomplishing anything during the day.

    I know things will pick up again soon, but right now we just all need to be here for each other emotionally, and enjoy just being together.

    I'm tired of checking off the list. I love my kids and just need a few days to truly STOP enjoy having them. Losing someone you love puts that in perspective.

    By Blogger Sun-Kissed Scholars, At February 3, 2010 at 6:46 PM  

  • Thanks for this reminder, I really needed it. I am a list maker, a planner. I like seeing the check marks in our planner/ makes me happy. It makes the girls happy too, but sometimes I think I put too much into it. They are learning and I just need to relax....

    By Blogger Jacquelin, At February 3, 2010 at 10:57 PM  

  • I hear you on this one!

    The normal in me tells myself this alot, however, the OCD me usually overrides.

    Have to say though, I am doing much better about taking time off and letting us school way more relaxed since the New Year.

    By Blogger Susana, At February 4, 2010 at 1:19 AM  

  • Thanks; I needed to read this tonight. We have done virtually nothing the past two school days. I figure we're entitled to some extra relaxation on snow days, but I thought we'd at least get something accomplished! I appreciate the reminder to relax and take it easy.

    By Blogger Davene, At February 7, 2010 at 1:15 AM  

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